This week has been Imani and I’s first week out and about.
We’ve been to Asda, Aldi, my Mum and Dad’s house, into town, our friends bday party (for all of 10 mins) Be-Fitter Gym, the Mechanics and we’ve even been to a car showroom to find a new car because it was just sods law that at the start of our ‘adventure week’ my car wouldn’t bloody start! Typical!!
It’s been an experience but we’ve cracked the ice now so the sky is our limit! #Freedom!!
The most stressful outing was going into town for the first time and here is why:
We were meant to leave the house at 12:45 and everything was on track. Imani had been washed, dressed, fed and changed and I was all ready too.
At precisely 12:44 she decided to do an explosive poo so I changed her, got her ready again and then she started puckering up her lips for another feed. I sat down to feed her, noting the time was now 1pm.
Whilst feeding her, I’ve texted my Aunty to let her know I’ll be 15 mins late and I’m walking round the house trying to get the last few bits I need ready to take and then I sit down, whilst my husband puts my shoes on!! She pulls herself off 10 mins later and so it was GO-GO-GO!
We’re in the car, she’s crying and I think, give it a few minutes and she’ll stop and fall asleep like EVERY other time. Just before I get into the parking area of the #Highcross Shopping Centre, I look in the mirror…’Shit, she’s still awake’ well I can’t keep driving round I’m late as it is.
We park, and I awkwardly set up the rest of the push chair putting on the carry cot for the first time in public #Palaver!
Out she comes and into the carry cot she goes…screaming! Yes, we have a travel system so the car seat can go directly onto the push chair but I didn’t know how long we’d be so I took the carry cot instead so she can lie down flat and be more comfortable. I’m not a fan of the car seat anyway and I use it only when I must!
Once again I thought, a few pushes and she’ll stop crying and nod off. Nope she screamed all the way!
In the lift, two old women peered into the cot “oh she’s brand new isn’t she” all I was thinking was ‘back away strangers!’ Thankfully they didn’t get too close or start touching!! Bless them
On the walk to the restaurant, two young lads were walking what felt like DIRECTLY behind me! They weren’t, I was just on edge and feeling paranoid lol. Somehow every human being I don’t know now looks like a blob of germy bacteria to me!! I know this paranoia will pass though
She continued to scream in the push chair. That piercing, everybody look this way, type of scream that goes right through you! I probably looked like a nutter as I walked in a circle in the Highcross trying to settle her…no joy!!
I got to the restaurant where I met my Aunty and instantly the level of stress reduced! It’s so much less stressful when you’ve got company!
She sorted the food whilst we went to the toilet.
As I approached I thought ‘how does this work? Will their be a baby changing room? If not do I have to take her out the pushchair or will it fit in the cubicle with me, if not what do I do with the push chair and all that’s on it? By the time I had thought of every single possible question we were in the spacious baby changing room! Problem solved.
I’m now walking back, looking for a table and although she fed twice before we left and is normally fast asleep by now it dawned on my I need to breastfeed her IN PUBLIC!
I chose a remote located table at the back, lifted her out and started feeding her. My new gadget that I’m yet to write about, the ‘Snugglebundl’ worked a treat. I love it! You wouldn’t even be able to tell she was feeding. BOOM! She’s happy, I’m happy, we’re all happy!
Having to breastfeed in public was something I was most anxious about and as I’m exclusively breastfeeding I know avoiding it will be impossible. This is why I’ve gone out as much as possible this week to make me do it sooner rather then later.
I tried different breastfeeding aids at home and practiced how to feed discreetly first and without having to use any stupid covers (which I tested and hated!) so I know I could do it, it was just actually doing it for the first time that was daunting but…WE DID IT!
Before anyone reading this jumps onto the ‘breastfeeding in public’ wagon which is a WHOLE blog post in itself, I have no issue with breastfeeding in public, I’ll feed my baby wherever and whenever she needs to, it’s just my personal preference that if and when we do it’s still a private moment for Imani and I to share in peace and quiet away from passers by and my new favourite product the ‘snugglebundl’ is perfect and allows her to feed in my arms as per normal without others noticing.
Anyway, back to my ‘adventure summary’. We all had lunch together, it was lovely, great to be out and just what we needed and guess what, Imani eventually fell asleep and slept the whole way back!
This week has been awesome!
Now I feel like we can do and go anywhere and we will!
Goodbye four walls and crappy daytime tv!
Hello world xx